Just how easy is it to hook up these days? Perhaps before answering the question, we should first define exactly what a hook-up is. According to various sources, there is no universally accepted definition of the term.
Even those who use the phrase, such as college students, have their own personalized definition of the word. Author of the book Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships on Campus, Doctor Kathleen Bogle, reports that their definition is intentionally vague. In an interview with “Teen Vogue”, however, she added that the definition of the term always “involves sexual activity” that ranges anywhere between “kissing” and sexual “intercourse, outside of a [monogamous] relationship.”
Bucknell sociologist William Flack has been conducting research on casual sex for almost 17 years. He reports that referring to having a casual romantic or sexual encounter as “hooking up” is currently widely accepted. He says it has not replaced “dating,” just altered how people think about it. He agrees with “Teen Vogue” and other sources that people today do not have any trouble hooking up.
In the past, one only had the numerous free phone chat lines to meet other people. However, many callers reserved their involvement to anonymous phone sex. Once the internet hit its stride though singles were soon able to use hookup sites and hookup apps.
With further advancements in electronics, came various smartphone dating apps. Soon singles were not only hooking up with little more effort than a swipe of a finger but they could even compare dating sites from one electronic device to the other. Many of these websites and apps offer some form of free membership too. This does not, however, mean that this ease in engaging in intercourse sometimes comes with a price.
While it’s easy to find people to have casual sex with you, you are also giving everyone online a certain impression about your morals and character. You are exposing yourself to near 24/7 judgment by strangers who would not otherwise even know of you. You are also exposing yourself to much more potential rejection and, if you are not careful, sexually-transmitted diseases.
While it is now easier than ever to meet like-minded individuals, you will also be exposed to a lot more people you may not find attractive. Some may be boring, some may be repulsive and some may not take rejection well.
Are you looking for more than just a one-night stand? If so, before diving into the hook-up pool, do your homework. Look for attractive individuals who have profiles similar to yours. If you both have familial responsibilities, for example, you can assume you will both have other responsibilities on your calendars.
While it is easy to meet others these days, again, look beyond the potential chemistry. If you have particular fetishes or specific sexual fancies check out websites and apps that specialize in those particular tastes. These days even the kinkiest individuals can find matches on the internet.
Sometimes those who engage in casual sex can be too casual. Once you have made the decision to meet others for no-strings-attached sex, don’t forget to employ the same precautions you would if you were seriously and/or romantically dating. While having casual sex may very well be your main motivation this does not mean you should simply forget about playing it safe. Don’t forget such precautions as having your first meets in public places, telling a trusted friend where you are going and what you are doing, and remember to discuss such subjects as safe sex prior to any intimate interaction.